Monthly Archives: June 2012

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Sandman’s Lawn Law

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sand·man’s lawn law /ˈsan(d)manz lôn lô
noun
1. A law of nature, to the effect that any time of day that you put your baby or young child down for a nap will also be the time someone nearby will loudly mow their lawn, preventing or cutting short the nap.

See also: leaf·blow·er’s law /lēf·blōərz lô/

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Apologies to the man in the next bathroom stall

Apologies to the man in the next bathroom stall

I know.

I know!

All you wanted to do was go to the bathroom in peace.

I’m sure that the last thing you expected was that some guy would come in with his toddler and take up residence in the next stall for a little while.

I’m so sorry.

I just hope, at the very least, that you got more amusement than annoyance out of the constant stream of words that come out of my little boy’s mouth while he does his business:

“Dada, this potty has four walls, one, two, three… well, actually also it has a door.

This wall is metal but that wall looks like bricks I think.There are lights waaay up on the ceiling but I can’t reach them until I’m a grown up and I’m really, really, REALLY tall!

But there are no handles on the wall in this potty, no. Sometimes there are handles for helping you not to fall of the potty, but only sometimes and not for ur-ni-nals except sometimes.

Hey look, there is a man under that wall. He’s going potty too.

Is this potty an automatic?

OH! Oh Dada I’m gonna poop! Really, really good poop. Here comes poop! Errrrrrrgh!

Yay! I pooped! I get to play on your Kindle! But also maybe I can have a banana cookie? Because I pooped really good Dada. I pooped three poops, I counted.

Oh, the man is all done too. Wow, that man is using a lot of toilet paper, I think.”

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In Praise of my Mommy Friends

In Praise of my Mommy Friends

Sometimes I feel like I spend a lot of time talking about one of the big the downsides of being an at-home dad, in how we dads can have such a hard time finding acceptance and inclusion by the moms of our local communities.

I think every at-home dad I know has a few of these kinds of stories. Being rejected by an organized mom’s group because it’s “too likely you’re a predator” or something. Getting overtly distrusting leers by moms on the playground, or the cold shoulder as the only dad at a library storytime. These things, and far worse, happen all the time.

But while moms often present to us our biggest challenges, moms are also in many ways our most valuable support and biggest cheerleaders. As I’ve thought about my life right now, as an at-home dad who has embraced the role, I feel like it would be dishonest –and frankly, ungrateful– of me not to acknowledge that there are more moms who give me friendship and support than give me a hard time.

And so . . .

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Foodie Friday: Baked Kale Chips

Foodie Friday: Baked Kale Chips

I couple of weeks ago I did an interview with Josh Levs from CNN, about the “Huggies thing,” and the image of the bumbling dad in general.

Earlier this week his article went up. I encourage you to go read it, because it’s quite a good roundup of how the stereotype is changing or at the very least being challenged when it raises its head.

It was a great conversation, and thankfully it worked out that both boys napped well for me so we could have an uninterrupted chat. But while we talked I still tried to quietly get a few things done around the house. At one point the beep of the oven and the sound of clattering baking sheets made me feel like I should apologize for the noise, and I explained to him what I was doing.

And so, my favorite part of his article came about:

[Routly is] concerned that boys and men “see the bumbling dad … and think that’s what’s expected of them,” the stay-at-home father of two told me by phone while baking chips for his kids out of kale from his garden.

I’ve been having so, so many people ask me about my kale chips lately, that I’ve decided it’s high time I posted the (ridiculously easy) recipe for making them.

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Five Things I Don’t Want This Father’s Day

Five Things I Don’t Want This Father’s Day

With Father’s Day upon us, it is only appropriate that I share a few of my wishes for this time when dads get a little love.

But rather than a list of gift ideas, here are some things I DON’T want:

1. Father’s Day “gift idea” lists that are thinly veiled excuses to mock the author’s husband.

2. Yet another article about how more men are becoming involved dads — changing diapers, fixing meals, taking the kids to the park, etc. — because the recession (sorry, “mancession”) and job loss forced them to do so.

3. Any product marketed as a “Perfect Father’s Day Gift!” (unless I have already mentioned wanting one). I don’t need a tie, a mug, or anything golf-related.

4. To have to suffer through any “celebrations of fatherhood” that backhandedly praise dads for occassionally doing simple parenting tasks without killing a child or burning down the house.

5. Hearing that a father’s role as a “provider” for his family is based on something as temporary and meaningless as money.

BONUS! Fatherhood explained via sports metaphor.

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I take LearnVest’s “Money Mic”

I take LearnVest’s “Money Mic”

LearnVest is a large website that provides financial tools, resources and support to women.

They asked me recently to write an article for them about my experience as an at-home dad, as part of their “Money Mic” series, where people share different opinions on finances.

While it touches on many aspects of being a SAHD I don’t think I’ve ever been specifically asked to write about the financial considerations and challenges, and it was interesting to do so.

In our LV Moms’ Money Mic series, we hand over the podium to people with controversial views about money and parenthood. These views are theirs, not ours, but we look forward to opening up the floor for discussion.

In the past, we’ve featured writers with ideas on everything from how to earn extra cash while doing other people’s chores to why one mom home-schools her kids.

In today’s story, Chris Routly, a stay-at-home dad in Allentown, PA, explains how he and his wife came to the decision that he would leave work to stay home with their two young boys, aged 3 and 1, and how they make it work raising a family on her salary alone.

You’ve probably read a lot recently about how there has been an increase in the number of stay-at-home dads in the United States in last few years. You’ll mostly hear that this is because the troubled economy is hitting traditionally male occupations like construction and manufacturing the hardest, while women are graduating from college at a higher rate, and more often than ever bringing home higher salaries than their husbands.

However, while there are certainly plenty of men who have lost their jobs and stepped up their responsibilities at home, I think, for many dads out there, the reason for becoming “at-home dads” is actually twofold—both financially based and a chosen decision.

I am one of those dads, and I’d like to share my family’s story…

Please go read the rest of the article here!

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